:) WHERE Men have a cable? :)
21 Jan
By now, I’m sure you’ve experienced talking with your girl friends over a latte and hearing about how “so-and-so just got engaged.” And while you nod and gush about how happy you are for the lucky couple, you can’t help but wonder just why your own relationships never seem to go that way.
If you’ve been in a few relationships, you’ve probably noticed that most men never seem to be as sure about committing or settling down for the long-term as you are. And no matter how long your relationship with him lasts, it doesn’t seem to help the fact that he’s simply not in good terms with the idea. Are men really that commitment-phobic?
Well, to an extent. It would seem that majority of all men are somehow “hard-wired” to avoid commitment like a cat avoiding a bath. It doesn’t help things that many men find that having a casual social life, meeting and going out with many different women, is more fun than the idea of settling down with just one.
Fortunately, you won’t have to deal with such men as a given. You probably have a guy friend somewhere who you knew for a fact loved being single and wasn’t going to settle down anytime soon, but suddenly changes his mind when he meets a particularly fun, interesting woman. Talk about a 180-degree turn of events!
In other words, you can change how men think and feel about settling down, and ultimately make him more open to commitment.
Here’s the thing - the single most important skill to have in a relationship is good communication. This doesn’t just mean being able to voice out your own thoughts and feelings, either - that’s what your girlfriends and the nearest coffee shop is for. Good communication is a two-way street. If you can learn to listen to his own thoughts and feelings (and actually encourage him to do so whenever he’s with you), you’ll soon realize that you can basically talk to each other about virtually anything.
Being a good communicator also makes you a lot more interesting than every other woman who tells him how her day went. When he knows you’re more than just the next whiny person, he’ll be expecting an interesting, invigorating exchange of ideas every time you sit down together.
What’s more, when he’s not shy about expressing himself anymore, you can pick up on the things that make him tick - and use it to your advantage, of course. When you know the things that interest him, then you’ll know exactly how to keep him interested - and more. You’d be surprised at how differently men think from women!
Bottom line? While men may prefer to stay single by nature, it doesn’t take much to change his mind. All you need is to know how to get through to him through good communication. Once you know what makes him tick, he’ll be more open to commitment before you know it.